It is customary for a bride to be thrown a shower hosted by someone other than the bride's immediate family, particularly the mother of the bride, in effort not to appear greedy. The bridal shower is generally thrown by either the matron of honer or the brides maids, though this is not a requirement of the role. That said, it has become more acceptable for a family of the bride to host, usually due to logistics. Often times when a bride who has moved away from her childhood home and will be hosting friends from across the country {and sometimes from around the world}, her main ties to her hometown may be her family. Thus, it may make sense for a family member to host.
Does a bride need to accept every invitation to have a party thrown in her honor? When multiple people offer to throw a shower for the bride, she should graciously accept their desire to entertain, but guests should not be repeatedly invited to all of the showers taking place. The wedding party, close friends, and family may be invited to all of the gatherings but should only be expected to bring a gift to the first shower they attend. If the bride feels that multiple showers appears gratuitous and she feels uneasy about appearing eager for gifts, the hostess can note "no gifts, please" on their invitation.
It is important to remember that the shower is to be a small gathering to honor the bride and an ostentatious celebration. There will be plenty of time for that at the wedding reception.
When planning a guest list, do ensure that all of your guests are invited to the wedding as well, as anyone not invited to the wedding should not be invited to the shower. The only known exception to this rule is when co-workers decide to throw a shower for the bride in understanding that they cannot all be invited to the wedding itself but would still like to show their enthusiasm for the upcoming nuptials.
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