Can I Ask Guests to Donate Money Towards Our Honeymoon?

With growing frequency couple are staring to ask for financial contributions towards their honeymoon in lieu of {or, "gasp", in addition to} wedding gifts. While Anna Post, daughter of Emily Post, gives the green light on this practice, I disagree.

I disagree with this practice because the honeymoon is part of the wedding process. You would no more ask a guest to pay for your centerpieces than you should your honeymoon. If a couple is prepared to step in the adult world by entering into marriage, they should be able to fund the nuptials and the traditions that are involved.

In many cases couples are marrying later in life, years after college graduation, and have the benefit of a somewhat established career and stability. These adults should not be asking other adults to pay for their honeymoon; just as they would not ask them to pay for their DJ or catering.

If you would prefer to have more cash gifts, rather than another toaster oven, limit the items you register for. In lieu of coffee makers many guests will simply write a check. But at least that way you are not outright asking for money. If you end up receiving enough to cover your honeymoon, then great! But remember, as an adult entering into marriage, you should not be planning a trip you cannot afford nor should you ask others to foot the bill.